If you know me at all you know full well that I treasure my friendships and that I will do everything within my power to keep them. Call me stupid. Call me tenacious. I call it not taking losing a friend lightly.
For the sake of argument, lets say that I do indeed have blinders on and that I have surrounded myself with only "yes men." (Calm down, those of you who are not "yes men.")
I truly feel that there is a huge difference between letting me know that I am way off base and beating the crap out of me verbally. There are a few of you whom will let me know when I am wrong if I am asking. I totally appreciate that. I ask because I want to make sure. I tend to run things by more than one of you because I want to make sure that I am NOT being a bitch. I want to hear someone elses perspective. Oddly enough, My heart really does care. Go Figure.
Some of you, okay MOST of you have commented on my patience level, suggesting that I have a high threshold for that which would try anyones patience. Rarely do I find anyone who says to me "I have way more patience than you do." I don't know why I am so patient. I just am. I guess it goes back to my first para where I state that I don't take losing friends easily or lightly.
I think that my biggest problem is that this level of patience I am told I have does not seem to show up when I am interacting with people who refuse to see the blessings in their lives. Just as everyone has crap in their lives; EVERYONE also has blessings. EVERYONE. I do not see how I can be wrong for suggesting to anyone the blessings that I see in their life. I believe that in life, a person is so close to the situation, that they are unable to see the blessings because they are so mired in the day to day crap that occurs.
Everyone has it bad. I won't apologize because I refuse to dwell on the crap that does indeed drag me down. I attempt to live my life by putting the best spin on it I can, even when it seems like it is crumbling around me. Why?
Because My Name is blondie and I am a Recovering Pessimist.
It feels GOOD!
For the sake of argument, lets say that I do indeed have blinders on and that I have surrounded myself with only "yes men." (Calm down, those of you who are not "yes men.")
I truly feel that there is a huge difference between letting me know that I am way off base and beating the crap out of me verbally. There are a few of you whom will let me know when I am wrong if I am asking. I totally appreciate that. I ask because I want to make sure. I tend to run things by more than one of you because I want to make sure that I am NOT being a bitch. I want to hear someone elses perspective. Oddly enough, My heart really does care. Go Figure.
Some of you, okay MOST of you have commented on my patience level, suggesting that I have a high threshold for that which would try anyones patience. Rarely do I find anyone who says to me "I have way more patience than you do." I don't know why I am so patient. I just am. I guess it goes back to my first para where I state that I don't take losing friends easily or lightly.
I think that my biggest problem is that this level of patience I am told I have does not seem to show up when I am interacting with people who refuse to see the blessings in their lives. Just as everyone has crap in their lives; EVERYONE also has blessings. EVERYONE. I do not see how I can be wrong for suggesting to anyone the blessings that I see in their life. I believe that in life, a person is so close to the situation, that they are unable to see the blessings because they are so mired in the day to day crap that occurs.
Everyone has it bad. I won't apologize because I refuse to dwell on the crap that does indeed drag me down. I attempt to live my life by putting the best spin on it I can, even when it seems like it is crumbling around me. Why?
Because My Name is blondie and I am a Recovering Pessimist.
Try a bit of optimism.
It feels GOOD!
1 comment:
Anonymous said...
intersting bits here blondie.
Loyalty to ones friends. I've been told it's my greatest strenght and also.... my weakness...sigh... so I know from what you speak.
Giving up friends and those who believe they are friends is tough. However, I am learning to ask are they *really* friends? I have one of those chain emails about friends and true friends. I must see if I still have it or if I delete it. There is a telling difference in those who are *true* and those who... are.
Optimism is good... perhaps what you really mean is positive attitude? about life, about people, about everything. This is the kind of conversation we will need to have in real time over several bottles or glasses of that blue stuff... found on Friday!
Take care my *true cyber friend!*
and... um... get writing eh?
tooth ache- Tree... three ex strength advil every three hours... even after anti biotics have started...
5:27 PM
Anonymous said...
Hi girlie~
I am so sorry to hear that your tooth is still giving you issues. I hope it clears up soon.
I suppose that loyalty is great, unless it hurts you in the process. *shrugs* I knew you would understand.
I would love to see the friends email if you can locate it. If not, if you can give me a few details, I will attempt to hunt it down on the web. There is truly nothing like a good search challenge, imho!
Positive attitude is very relevant in this realm. I suppose that being optimistic would be a direct response to a positive attitude,eh?
I will make sure the bar is open on Friday evening. I hope we can sit and drink and discuss. I love it when we can get a good forth and back going on here, either serious, fun or just blowing off steam. It's all good!
feel better!
*hugs*
~blondie
5:36 PM
Anonymous said...
Wow, what a great post! And take it from me, someone that couldn't even find his glass a few months back, it is good to look on the bright side of things.
Do we have troubles? yeah, I'd guess we all do, but that load is lightened by good, and *true* friends, cyber or otherwise. The really great thing is that we don't have to even mention our troubles most of the time. Just hanging with our friends being goofy helps to get a new perspective on the really tough things in life.
I have a truly wonderful friend, that has seen me through some truly horrible things (and even a couple today!). Had the things today, happened in the past, I would have been beside myself, but having some fun, and looking at them from a different angle, sure does make my day end completely differently.
(and now a word from our sponsor) - go check out today's Wizard of Id. Considering T.I.M.'s choice of wine, and other hobbies, I thought it was fitting.
Keep up the good 'tude - and keep reminding all of us to, as well.
T.I.M.
7:15 PM
Anonymous said...
A Little Bit Me, A Little Bit You - Neil Diamond
Walk out
Girl don't you walk out
We've got things to say
Talked out, let's have it talked out
Thinks will be okay
Girl,
I don't want to fight
I'm a little bit wrong
And you're a little bit right
I said Girl,
You know that its' true
It's a little bit me (a little bit me)
And it's a little bit you.... too
Don't know....
Just what I said wrong
But girl I apologize
Don't go... here's where you belong
So wipe the tears from your eyes
Girl I don't want to fight
I'm a little bit wrong
And you're a little bit right
I said girl,
You know that it's true
It's a little bit me
And it's a little bit you... too
Oh girl
I don't want to fight
I'm a little bit wrong
And you're a little bit right
I said girl,
You know that it's true
It's a little bit me
And it's a little bit you.... too
It's a little bit me
It's a little bit you
Girl don't go
No no no no no
Girl don't go
No no no no no
Hey girl, please don't go
(and please stop calling me depressed - frustrated to the nth, yes, absolutely, but I am not depressed - ain't no one gonna take me down, just really piss me off trying...)
8:07 PM
Post a Comment